Monday, February 22, 2010

Valentine's Day...a little late


I have not always made a very big deal out of Valentine's Day. Most years, Patrick and I might go out to eat and grab a little happy for the girls. But this year, I realized I kinda love V-day. I couldn't wait to do something really special for my family. Why not take a day and go above and beyond to show some extra love? So...roll forward to February 14th. I was sick. Like really sick. I had the stomach bug from you-know-where, and then I passed it on to my hubby (you know, because I love to share:) Anyway, my plans for Valentine's day changed and got moved back a little. And oh...how thankful I am that they did. So on Tuesday, I set up the table while the girls were napping, and Patrick and I surprised them when they woke up. I made cupcakes, and we bought them little happies and cards. It really wasn't a big deal (see picture above), but they loved it nonetheless. Well, we were sitting around eating our cupcakes when my little Lily's face just fell. She looked broken-hearted. I asked her what was wrong. She said... "Oh mommy, thank you for all of this. I am so sorry I was disobedient today. It was a sin. Will you forgive me?" Melt my heart. Earlier, something had happened that I had already handled with her. She was, as she said, disobedient. But I knew at the moment when were "dealing" with it, she was not repentful. She hated to be disciplined. But the act itself, she did not hate. Usually, Lily is one to feel sorrow over her areas of disobedience. But that day, it just didn't come. And I knew I had done all I could. So fast forward to several hours later when she looked at me with those big, brown eyes and truly felt geniuine remorse. It reminded me of Romans 2:4 " or do you presume on the riches of his kindness and forbearance and patience, not knowing that God's kindness is meant to lead you to repentance?" Isn't it so true when we think about the unmerited, gracious kindness of our Father, our hearts truly break over our sin? I love how just a little act of kindness towards my daughter brought about the sorrow over her disobedience. I love that God fully equips me to teach, train, and cultivate the hearts of my children, but it is Him alone that changes them!! The Holy Spirit is working even when I might not see it. It was nothing I did that made Lily realize she was wrong. That was totally the work of God on her little heart. He was just using me in the process. A lady at my church recently said at a christmas party that we (parents) are like John the Baptist. We are just preparing the way for Christ in our children. I loved that illustration. And I love that God gives us an instruction manual on how to do just that. Deuteronomy 6: 5-7 You shall love the Lord your God will all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise." So basically I need to be constantly talking and teaching and "preparing the way." It's such an awesome and heavy responsibility. And I feel as though I fail miserably at times. But I am so thankful that 1) His mercies are new every morning, and each day I can wake up and go at it again. 2) I am teaching, talking, and showing them the way, but it is God who is doing the real work on their hearts. Praise the Lord!



Besides, look at these little faces! Aren't they more than worth the effort? :) Oh...how God is so good to me!


6 comments:

  1. What a great post! This is definitely one of my favorite posts yet! You are so inspiring to me.. even though I do not have kids yet. I am constantly learning from you. After taking the parenting class and studying what it is supposed to look like to live out Deuteronomy 6: 5-7, I love having you as an example of someone that truly does it and does it right. It will help me be more equipped when my day comes :) I wish the Valentine's picture was bigger.. it looks so cute! I remember watching a Jon and Kate episode (back in the good times), and she made a really big deal of Valentine's Day. She did sweet little things for all her kids, and I thought then, I am so going to do that with mine one day! What fun!

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  2. What a wonderful post! I'm so thankful of your desire to for-goo a life in the professional realm and focus on molding and shaping our dear daughters. Although, as you said, we can't change their hearts for them, we can show them love that leads them to a closeness with God.
    “The love of God is not God's making much of us, but God's saving us from self-centeredness so that we can enjoy making much of him forever. And our love to others is not our making much of them, but helping them to find satisfaction in making much of God. True love aims at satisfying people in the glory of God. Any love that terminates on man is eventually destructive. It does not lead people to the only lasting joy, namely, God. Love must be God-centered, or it is not true love; it leaves people without their final hope of joy.” – John Piper (Article -The Goal of God's Love May Not Be What You Think It Is)

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  3. Great quote from the Pipes, Patrick! "For-goo"-- love it!! hahaha

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  4. God has blessed me beyond measure with children (and, of course, I am including Nathan and Patrick here)that are truthseekers. I look forward to the day Lily & Evie come to know Him.

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  5. Man, you must have had some GREAT parents! Well, I can think of one anyway, and her words above speak better to express my feelings than anything I could say. I do not have the ability to express how my heart feels about my two girls, their children, and their husbands. When I say I am blessed, it only begins to make me realize the love, the mercy, the everything Jesus has bestowed upon me. Thank you Corrie and Anna, for this blog, for putting into words I can see, the work of the Holy Spirit.

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  6. Wow! What great illustrations, Corrie. This is the first time I have read your blog and it was so very inspiring. Your whole family makes my heart swell!

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